جلسات #مع_نفسي 02 ... لمن هذه الجلسات؟ وكيف يمكن الانتفاع منها؟

Welcome to the second session and again may this year be filled with blessings I hope yesterday’s prescription did not affect your fasting and your day went well. On the contrary, I did it But I felt the last session finished very quickly as I had many unasked questions, is this normal? This is very normal You need to keep in mind that these sessions are around 15 minutes… 20 minutes max, and it is normal that topics about “The Self” are heavy What we are trying to do during this time is to make best use of your visit and provide you with keys that could open doors in the future As we progress, I can direct you to certain references, for example: for this topic, you can go back to the following reference and so on But it is normal… we are barely touching the surface of certain topics, we will be diving deeper with certain topics that we feel are important, but it is normal to feel like you entered a new world where you have many questions that were answered in books, volumes, and encyclopedias. And this poor man in front of you is asked to give you a summary, may Allah help you Allah will help us In sha Allah Last session, I asked you about the subject that will be covered in our sessions during this month… is it really beneficial? And will we [myself and those like me] be able to make use of it? Alright, look sir Many people question whether this subject is important or not and if they need to listen to these talks I answer them with a “Yes” and “No” How so? Let me start with answering the “No” There are people who are already living happy and content without knowing that their happiness is sometimes discussed in books and turned into stories and academies And there are people that feel happiness should be attained through education and attending workshops and the like To the first type we say: If you go through this subject, you will at least discover the reasons behind your psychological well-being as well as the scientific concepts supporting these reasons We can compare it to a concrete (physical) example: an individual who already has a good life and good physical condition without knowing the reason, and then they listen to a doctor explaining that a certain amount of carbohydrates after a certain hour is not healthy, “this is what I actually do”, so at least they will have a scientific background so the next time something similar happens they will know the reason behind it As for those whose reply is with a "Yes" -as my response to your question- Unfortunately, they are in need… I mean most of the people we meet in our daily life have many question marks, they are confused about what to do... how to live happily, how to deal with daily life whether it be at home, mosque, cafe, club, mall, work, hospital, company, on the street, with colleagues and with the boss To those we give them brotherly advice, not as a doctor -come to my clinic on the contrary, sometimes I tell people that I want to shut down the clinic from tomorrow They ask me why? Because if people knew this information, we could focus on other things I always say that in case the clinic shuts down and every individual becomes capable of understanding their "self" and solving its problems, up to a point where visiting someone to tell them who they are is not needed... that's when we can focus on academic and educational curriculums, curriculums that produce the next generation… but until further notice we are required to do this work... The work that involves having someone in front of you...explaining to them who they are...familiarizing them with their “self”... and acting as an interpreter between the individual and their “self” because he cannot read himself… In summary, this is the material we provide… And the target audience is every individual with a human self Every one with a human self… and if we want to be somewhat meticulous: everyone with a human self, aged 14+ can benefit from this material in sha Allah You mean almost everyone, everyone who is listening to us Almost In sha Allah, alright doctor… Will we be tackling the subject through the experiences you had, at the clinic for example, or through textbooks? We always hear that that psychology is quite heavy as a subject! As we said during yesterday’s visit, part of being honest is to inform people scientifically or else it will be like anything else said to people [without factual background], but the scientific talk does not mean that it has to be all theoretical and academic far from what people actually experience in the streets and at their homes That is why, what we will do is bring up cases of those who visited the clinic, without breaching privacy and confidentiality, and take from them samples of a father, mother, girl, boy, etc.… Yes, all the segments all the segments and in a practical manner Like what does the media produce? What is the impact of YouTube? Anime, Manga and cartoons, what could their side-effects be? TV channels, what could be their impact? Listening to music for a long duration, what could that do to you? How about “Hard Rock”? All of these topics will be talked about as they come up, but I claim that what we do in these small doses -which you were vocal about at the beginning of today’s session is to try as much as possible to present the summary, which I always stipulate that it needs honesty and willpower Honesty and willpower? Honesty and willpower, don’t fool yourself, don’t kid yourself and don’t say that you don’t need this talk, don’t say “Everything is fine with me”.. and willpower Meaning: everyone needs this psychological subject, even if everything is fine with them That is what I argue for… at least so that one can reflect back on her/himself So not everyone who visits a psychiatrist [therapist] necessarily has a psychological disorder? Of course not, of course not, we have people coming to us- just to be clear, we said yesterday that there is a difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist Right However, a psychiatrist is now taking cases, and this is one of my criticisms of some psychiatrists, they lack life experience, all they have is knowledge taken from textbooks and handbooks based on which they come and talk about all sorts of matters! Choosing a life partner etc.… No, hold on a second! You must take a course in that or prove to me that you do have life experience on top of studying psychiatry if you want me to listen to what you are saying. In brief, we always say “Who will benefit [from these sessions]?”. People that come to this clinic include: those who are about to choose their university major, she who is confused about choosing a life partner, he who proposed to a girl but doesn't know if they are suitable for each other, those who have severe depression and those who have hallucinations… Basically everyone… This is in psychiatry- I mean in psychotherapy, In psychotherapy, Exactly, we tell people that not all those who knock on the clinic’s door are “crazy”, unlike what some people perceive them or how they are unfortunately portrayed by the media and movies No. You could come to chat, you could come to just get an idea for instance, one of the recent cases that I had was with a girl who received a scholarship abroad and wants to know whether she is competent to live abroad I mean whether she is psychologically competent to live far away from her parents Alright, we will turn the question the other way around, is the psychotherapist or psychologist qualified and able to actually know whether she is able or not? It is assumed that the person will be qualified or else he must stay home! We repeat again, you have to be honest and have integrity when you promote yourself to people, you need to be qualified to work at your job or else you will be deceiving them and gaining unlawful income It has become clear now that the topic, masha’ Allah, is very important to everyone and anyone who is listening to us Of course, it seems that way because I marketed it well, but we leave it for the people to see it themselves and then… Yes exactly, alright Is there a certain methodology you advise to follow in order to maximize our benefit from this subject? Alright, this is today’s prescription What was yesterday’s prescription? It was to dedicate a page for every topic (father, mother, etc.) Today’s prescription would help add value and seize knowledge; I advise every single person to write the main reasons that are making their life not as content as they want it to be For example, “I feel like I do not know myself well”, “I feel that I care too much about others”, “I cannot focus on my studies”, they write these matters that... You mean that causes them to worry? Causes them to worry and raises question marks in their mind, doubt in faith, atheism, existentialism and so on This is so that you know the problem that relates to you as we talk, and that this problem that you thought has no solution, actually has an answer to it My advice is to keep a list of questions, much like a to-do list, and keep track of what questions were answered and which ones were not We hope, in sha Allah, that we answer most of the questions that we anticipate based on our experience And if there is anything left unsaid, perhaps we can have subsequent sessions to talk about them in sha Allah… but this is my advice to benefit the most in sha Allah Alright Doctor does this mean… I feel like there is a similarity between what you are saying and “Personal Development” I seek refuge in Allah! (A’udzubillah) Why? Is there a difference between the two? - Yes, of course! But this requires another session on its own

- A session! I mean it is possible during our meeting tomorrow in sha Allah… when you honour me with your visit, we will speak about the difference between what we are talking about and the term “Personal Development”, that is causing a problem in… A problem? Yes of course, but I also mean, so that I do not generalize and to be fair, this field has pros and cons, but talking about it means going into details, so we can talk more about it tomorrow? Then tomorrow we are going to have a heated discussion in sha Allah! Yes… and most probably if there is a lack of honesty, it will upset a lot of people May Allah help us Why did I say “If there is a lack of honesty”? Because I will try as much as possible to be extremely fair in describing the issue, but some people even with this extreme fairness, will be like this [get upset], since it is hard for them to let go of their beliefs Looking forward to tomorrow, in sha Allah In sha Allah, see you Thank you Doctor You are welcome