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Thank you It seems like this program gets more enjoyable Recently, I was requested to deliver a speech in prison. So I said, 'okay. I will'. Then I went there to deliver a speech. It was a women's prison. What kind of crime would women in prison commit most often? the audience: fraud No, not your story the answers are mostly from their own experiences Yes, but that was correct About 30% of prisoners were caught because of fraud Mostly financial fraud and how do we call those women? a player However, among them, there are three different categories Beautiful ones are players but if they are not pretty, we call them just 'criminals' Too much of discrimination, huh? too bad. But then, there were some women who were in a different category So I asked, "Who are they?" Someone told me that they are murderers. There is something different between a murderer and a murderess A common point in murderesses is that they killed near relatives they are killing a family member Who would they be? The audience: husband Yes, as you wish, it's 'husband' 400 of you all sing 'husband'! Let's kill them! I would like to suggest to all men audiences in here to keep watch of your wife. There's no warning needed. You only need to be careful of your wife. And I think it is a dangerous thing to sleep with your wife in one room. someday you will be no more And I advise you to be careful having the meals your wife makes My father turned 78 years old this year. My mother is 74 years old. From my childhood, my mother called my father usally honey, daddy, my husband She didn't use them at all She used 'Human' 'Human' What a warm word ! Humanistic , that a great word. But what's in front of the word? This human, that human I thoughy my father's name was 'human'. Is his last name is ' this ''? that naming has some stories Every family have their own stories. my family, too. My farther have a hearing impairment So he can't hear well. He felt difficulty in communication . then stared Art. I mean painting. he likes painting a lot. you see My father did oriental paintings one of the great works is called ' man with an umbrella ( Korean card game) You know that. He was poor but did art periodically. Then he gave money back to society. How much percent? exactly 100% and lives without property. so when he came back and had MMA matches with my mom. like Amba..Taekwondo next day my mom got blue eyed I was grown up in this family. Someone say Bright person always have a dark curtain behind. If my story is funny I guess It is brighter because of the curtain behind me. There is a contrast. That was a the relationship between my parents. I always feel sorry for my mom because when my father hit my mom I ran away. so the relationship with my father got worse. My father never talk without drinking. but surprisingly after drinking he can talk for 5 hours. not updated he says same things again and again. I don't drink at all because of my father. I have three sisters and one older brother.

His heart has been deeply hurt So he made up his mind to drink away all the bad drinks Because those are too harmful. He wants to drink away them all before another victim. and I've got a little trauma for my father, I'm a bit scared of someone who have power or much money or in old age I tend to be a little scared so It's true the relationship with my father is not so good. I feel burden to be called Communication expert. Next time please just introduce me a teacher who pretends teaching. I'm a teacher who teaches with yamae

I hope you do this My pretender is not that academic. Me and my father have been in awkward relationship. A few years ago, I got a phone call from my father. I said "Hello", It was a call from a dentist clinic in Jeju. I said "oh, do you ask for my lecture?" She said " No, sir. Mr Kim is that your father? " Yes , he's my father. What's going on? "Your father came to our clinic for some treatments" "he asked me to call you if you can pay the treatment pee." I thought 'what ? I'm not close to him.' How did this happen but I asked " How much is it?" My father wanted to get very good materials which cost a lot. They ask me to be afford to pay it. So I said " Oh, yes. I'll pay. Please care him well. Just before I hang up, he said " your father wants to talk with you." So I said " uh, he has a deafness.." "He wants to talk on you. What should I do?" I was nervous because I 'v never got a call from my father. "put him through , please." then he really answered the phone. people who have bad hearing ability shout. Yes, All your fathers have bad hearing ? You know that exactly. My father said Kiddo~your dad~ " I'm sorry " Guess that he really felt sorry on what he said. He said that with a very small voice It was small So I said " Don't have to say sorry to your son" "Just say pay for it because you've grown up kids so hard. I just tried to say like that but he already hang up. I dreamed to leave Jeju island after graduation. Peopel love Jeju but I hated there. It sasys hometown is not a land but people. But I hated my hometown, Jeju. I thought my father should be sorry to me someday. but I realized it is painful to listen ' I'm sorry' on that day. I knew that day for the first time I gave some money to my mom when I came to Jeju Once I gave money to my father, he gave it back to society again with gambling Yes, repay society . This is the life , Isn't it? Then giving and taking swears with mom. words like teenagers use a lot. F words, B words You are the eldest My family is such a theme park. Animals comes out.. I thought My father should not have money until he die. I didn't give money to him anymore. But after the incident ' I'm sorry' I thought he need some money secretly. Whatever gambling or something After I gave him money once or twice without telling my mom. My father changed Guys, for restoring relationship money is the best way ! My lesson conclusion communication is money! What else do you need ? you need noting else. communication is money. let you know how my father changed. He wanted to see me off when I was going back to Seoul. Only my mom used to see me off with a leopard printed clothes. She is a lonely leopard. not going out with other herd always go hunting alone She doesn't like to flock with my father. So whenever I get into the airport after showing my social Id card She keeps crying there. " Go, get in~ my kiddo~" Then I look back and say " Mama don't cry. am I going abroad? " but on that day, She said she wouldn't go out. Only me and my father went to the airport. It was so awkward. Way much more awkward than walking with a foreigner. First, the script is not appropriate. What, How are you? Fine thank you "Father, When will you divorce?" I should have asked. but not in the mood. We just arrived at the airport and uneasy. So I'd like to give money and go away " dad, don't say it to mom. It's just a little" then I went into. I am awkward with him. While I was getting in, A thought comes in mind ' Shoud I look back? ' If I encounter his eyes he is not a man who crys A grown up son feels like to cry sitting on the ground. What a movie or something! "Here it is" I showed my boarding pass Than I looked back He didn't move any step counting the money. I gave him new money My father didn't saliva

샥샥 샥샥 And then my father counts all the money

Put it in the jumper and don't look at that side I just went. But suddenly my father was going

The whole airport seems to be off. I can see a single light behind the back

I saw two things One left shoulder down Second, you ca n’t straighten your knees

Another very uncomfortable walk If you look at it for more than 2 seconds

I felt like tears, so I went in. When someone's back starts to show

Love has begun Those who are not married

Marry your older brother And when you got married, your spouse's back

If you can see, it's the first couple. Until then, you can think that you lived together So I got a lot better with my father. So, when I'm feeling a little sick

I was in the hospital Suddenly, my father's voice is what I want to hear. So I called "Hello"

My mom takes it "Yes, Chang-ok, mom." "Mom, how is your father a bit healthy?" "Yes, it always hurts

I'm a sick person even when ants pass by It hurts, "Neg Abby" "Mom, please change my father" Then just change my mom. "What are you changing?

Get it now " But after my father was over seventy My son asked me to change the phone one day.

He answered the phone. Then always say the same three words. "Eat rice, be careful with tea

Phone call comes out. How can my father say anything like that? Eat rice with your eldest son and watch out for tea.

There is a phone call. But one day too

I was hospitalized because I was in trouble I really want to hear my father's voice So I called again But my house is like a tape

Same ambassador. "Yes, it's always painful

Get it now " And my father is saying the same three words again. What are those three words "Eat rice, be careful with tea

Phone call comes out. But suddenly, when a person has no power

I do n’t know if it ’s because of that sound. I hear this sound translated from the ear. Oh, my father, who will be eighty tomorrow When I say I love you You are saying to eat Ah, there is a phone call. You are busy, but take the time to go home once

You mean Because that makes sense In the movie avatar, those people

What you say when you first meet What do you say? "I see you" It says "I see you" But in a scene that is crucial for a movie

The moment I have to say I love you These avatars love you

I don't speak What to say there again "I see you" I say, "I see you." I was listening to what Mr. Oh Jong-cheol was talking about 80-year-old old lady tells you to go into the bank

The words sounded like "I see you." Ah, that doesn't really mean you go into the bank.

It means "I love you" To eat is to love. Phone calls are coming out.

And what my parents' generations like me say This means I love you

I heard it translated. That ’s why I ’m so much better with my father. With you father

If you do n’t have a good relationship One day i see

My relationship with my father and me My father is awkward to me, but with courage

I feel sorry to say sorry. Listen to this story today before your spring comes

If you're sorry for someone I'm sorry for those people only once

Please take courage to tell me And it's too good for others

Some people do n’t do well. Those people are on their phones Write sorry and enter the recipient number

When you hit yourself, you come back. And when I saw that cell phone

Sometimes there are tears This means that we were having a hard time these days. And those tears are the stress hormones in the body.

It has the effect of pushing it out of the body. I always do it in lectures

I'm going to introduce and finish this The human mind is a neurotransmitter. That's why the whole body has a mind. So doing this

It ’s just like you hug yourself. Shall we finish it once? I don't want you to do this. Do this personally And this will improve And now

"Are you okay? Are you okay?" I'll finish this once Now start Audience: Are you okay? OK Sleeping facial expression

Digger Very bad Sometimes if you feel sorry for once For the communication of our lives It's awkward but I'm sorry to be brave

I think it would be good if you could tell me And sometimes it's hard for us or those around us Just tell me you're sorry once I also want you to ask if it's okay. Spring is coming soon Be healthy and happy in good spring

thank you Korean subtitle: Sejin Oh (global0816@naver.com)

Korean Inspection: Go Eun-bi (gomi0709@gmail.com)