How to ESCAPE THE 9-5 and Get Your Life Back

for some people the nino5 life is great it works for them and for some people the nto5 life is just kind of sad and suffocating if you clicked on this video that probably means that you fall into the lad category that means you probably want to get out of it or at least you're thinking about it and so in this video I'm going to help you figure it out and Escape that sort of life and build something for yourself if that's what you end up wanting to do and I'm going to share some of my experiences through this process too so let's just dive in and talk about it hey friends welcome back it's if you're new here my name is jills and I help women step into their power tap into their divine feminine and become their best self live their dream life so if that's something you want to do you should subscribe and stick around and in case you want more from me you can also check out my deep dive feminine energy course or any of my other digital products like my notion templat they're all linked down below so I quit my fancy corporate job I guess you can call it that almost exactly 7 years ago and I remember thinking like I tried so hard in school so that I could get into a really good college and then I got into a good University and during that time there I did all these different internships and tried hard in school so that I could then get a good job and then I got what people would consider a good job but then once I was there once I had finally like arrived at my destination where everything was supposed to be good and I was supposed to be happy I was like is this really what I worked so hard for and it just didn't make sense and maybe you can relate to that now I'm going to be straight up I didn't quit my corporate job because I had this like deep desire desire to like start my own business I quit my corporate job because one I didn't particularly like the corporate life it was boring and unfulfilling to me but also because during that time working I had developed a lot of health issues and so I quit to mainly heal and get better which I did and I'm super grateful that I was able to like take that time off and do that because I know a lot of people don't have the ability to do that but the building my business part it didn't come until later and I'll talk about that a little later on in this video but the truth is is that for some people the 9 to-5 life just kind of sucks and I want to clarify not for everyone some people might really enjoy it they might really love the predictability and the security of that and like more of the stability of that you have the benefits and everything like the health insurance but the 9 to5 life often turns into like 9 to 6 or 99 to 7 and then you get home at 7:30 and then you realize you still need to go to the gym and cook yourself dinner and once you're done with that you also need to like put the laundry away and then once you're done with that you realize it's past your bedtime and you just have to wake up and do it all over again in the morning and for some people not everyone but for some people this can feel like a modern-day form of torture in the 9to 5 life it can feel really hard on everyone but I do think that it can be especially difficult and especially draining for women not because we're not smart enough not because we're not capable enough it has nothing to do with anything like that but I think that our monthly Cycles greatly affect us more than what most people realize and we are not built for consistent output and consistent energy we're not built to rise and fall like the Sun every day showing up the exact same every single day that's how men are built but we are the moon we are meant to show up differently throughout the month like the moon and that is not encouraged or honored in the 9 to-5 life and I mean it's even looked down upon I really think that a lot of women would be healthier and happier if they worked for themselves if they were able to tap more into their creativity if they were able to have autonomy over their schedule so they could follow more of the natural es and flows of their energy even just to have more flexibility with our home and family life if we desire to put more attention there it's just much more in tune with the natural divine feminine way of doing things so let's just start off by asking should you aim to quit your job and leave the 9 to5 for good like how do you know if it's the right decision because it's a big decision and it's kind of scary first of all only you are going to know what's right for you right I cannot tell you your parents cannot tell you your friends cannot tell you only you so you do need to trust those intuitive nudges that you're getting but I would also say that your body can sometimes send you signals as well as to like what's right for you and what might not be right for you right like our bodies are always communicating with us like for me whenever I walked into an office environment whether it was one of the internships I had or it was my corporate job that I had I always just kind of felt a little bit uncomfortable and I had this sort of like very lowlevel nausea and like discomfort going on in my stomach it wasn't like fullon nausea every day it it wasn't that bad but it was like always kind of sitting there in the background in my body like I could just feel it and I get that mild feeling in my stomach whenever I'm doing something that kind of makes me uncomfortable or something that I'm not aligned with I also had this moment when I was working where I was starting to like hit that wall where I was like okay yeah I don't know if I can do this anymore it was one of those work days where like I had to fly in and fly out like fly back home the same day it was like an hourong flight or something I can't remember what I was going for like maybe a meeting or something I don't know and I was done with the day and I was waiting at the airport to fly home and my flight got delayed several hours so I was just sitting there and this is going to sound so weird but I all of a sudden just felt like I had bugs all over me like I was examining my skin and everything I was like kind of going crazy I did not have anything on me I did not have bugs all over me but I just had this like Sensation that there were like tiny little bugs crawling all over me it wasn't itchy it wasn't an allergic reaction but it was just this weird deeply uncomfortable sensation and once I was on the plane and almost home like Landing in my home City it went away and I realized that it was more of like an anxiety reaction sort of thing here's the thing with anxiety people like to demonize anxiety if people ever experience anxiety their first thought is to think oh what's wrong with me but anxiety the feeling of anxiety can be a huge sign that our body is sending us to tell us that something is not right that something is off that something is misaligned in our life anxiety does not have to mean that something is wrong with us could anxiety be from like an imbalanced body or like imbalanced chemicals going on in your body or anything else yes of course I'm not like discounting that but it could also just be a sign it could also just be your body saying like hey something's not right here I'm trying to get your attention so what is your body telling you forget about your mind forget about logic just for a second and just ask yourself what is my body telling me because only you will know another great practical easy way to see what's right for you like if you should quit your job or not is I want you to think about the people at your company or in your industry who are like 10 to 20 years older than you who are like 10 to 20 years your senior do you want to be them do you want their life because if you stay there that is who you'll become if the idea of that excites you it makes you happy and giddy it's something you're looking forward to to then great like you're in the right spot if when you think about that you're like oh dear no then it's time to go this is such a great question to ask yourself when you're at any job or even when you're interviewing for any job do you admire the people who are senior to you do you one day want to be them if there is not anyone that you can think of in any role in any company that you would aspire to be then the nto5 or corporate life is probably not for you your soul doesn't want it and that is okay it is not the only way But ultimately when you tap in and tune into yourself you will know you will know what is right for you your soul will tell you and it is your responsibility to listen to that and not ignore it it doesn't mean that you have to just quit your job tomorrow with no plan but it does mean that you need to start working towards that also I didn't mention this earlier but there are some women who maybe do not aspire to work at all they want to focus on being a wife or being a mother and that's wonderful too but this video is more for the women where that's not really an option at the moment or where they just want to bring in their own income they want to have something for themselves a business for themselves now in the rest of this video I'm going to talk about the actual steps that I would recommend to escape your 9 to-5 life but before I do that I first want to thank skillshare for kindly sponsoring today's video personally I've been working to improve my writing and communication skills for my business and also just for myself and skillshare has helped me do that I just finished up this creative writing class taught by Mila Goldberg who's a bestselling author and it's been super cool to learn if you don't know skillshare is the largest online community for creatives with so many different classes all led by industry experts in tons of different categories like design photography marketing and business film freelance and a whole lot more and on skillshare they've refreshed how 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opportunity so thank you skillshare and let's get back into it okay so if you want to escape the 9 to-5 life I'm going to walk you through five steps to help you do that so the first step is to determine your long-term goals and your dream life how do you want your life to look like in the future and how does work or like making money having an income how does that play into that what kind of schedule do you desire to have do you want to have location Freedom where you can like basically work wherever you want and travel whenever you want is that important to you do you want to have kids in a family one day is that important to you do you want to work with a bunch of people all the time or do you want to work more solo do you want to manage people have a bunch of people under you and like have a whole team listening to you or does that just stress you out we want to avoid that what kind of things do you want to spend time on in your day-to-day life really think about what your dream life and your dream schedule would look like not just like now or when you're in the future but 5 years 10 years 20 years from now so now that you have your dream life and that vision in your head you want to keep that Vision top of Mind as you make these plans to change your life for example if your dream life involves a lot of travel and you just want to be able to go wherever you want whenever you want then you want to make sure that you create a business that can probably be done online that doesn't have like a physical location or if you want to have a family and be like a really present involved mother one day then it's probably not a good idea to build a business that involves you traveling all the time and like meeting clients in other states and other countries or maybe that means that you're going to want to build a business that focuses more on like passive income streams so you can still make money while you're taking your kids to the park these little details are so important because who cares if you quit the 9 to-5 life and make your own money but you actually hate the business and the lifestyle that you've created for yourself and you're basically putting yourself on another hamster wheel that you can't wait to escape from if building your business is not getting you closer to your dream life then you're doing it wrong so the first step is to get clear on your dream life because it will dictate how you need to move forward next step is you are going to finally make a clear and firm decision are you going to leave the 9 to5 life yes or no you don't have to do it right this minute but is that what you're going to do and if so when are you going to do it by to make real change in your life it first starts by just making a decision and a lot of our stress comes from like having all these options but never making a decision but once you just decide once you say this is what I'm going to do this is what I want that's when the Universe starts making a path for it to happen but when you have this like e wishy-washy energy like oh I don't really know what I want like I could do this like this could be good or oh I don't know but maybe I should do this this might be right the universe doesn't know how to help you and you are not going to make any real progress or change in your life with that kind of energy this is a tiny little step but so important decide just declare to yourself this is what I want this is what's going to happen this is what I'm going to do I'm going to leave the corporate life and I know it's SC it took me like 2 years to be brave enough to say that but there was this one moment where I was just like working my job and all of a sudden I was just like yep I am 100% Allin and I am 100% leaving and once you just decide like 100% fully decide you will notice that the ball just kind of starts rolling and then decide on a date in which you want to leave by whether it's 2 months or 2 years decide on a date this little declaration to yourself is what you need to start taking action and make it a reality now the next step is to start planning your strategy to get that income so this is a big step so maybe you already have a really clear idea of like what you want to do and if so that's fabulous but if you don't you really want to think about your individual skill sets what are you good at what value can you provide to the world what are you knowledgeable in what's something that sort of comes easy to you but not to others how can you create value in this step don't just think about yourself and what you want also think about how can I be of service to others what gifts or skills do I have that I can share to benefit others I guarantee that you will be a lot more successful in building your business if instead of thinking about it as like oh I want 10K months to replace my income like how do I get these 10K months if instead you think about it as like how can I be of service to others how can I honor and help others in a way that's aligned with my values aligned with my Skillets and something that I enjoy and sort of comes a little bit naturally to me remember that money is always given exchange for value or perceived value people will provide money if and only if they think that they are receiving value in return so what is that value what is that value that you can provide and if you feel like you just have absolutely no value to provide or you just like don't know your skill sets you feel like you need time to like develop these skill sets because that was definitely me as well I'm going to talk about what to do in this instance in The Next Step so hold on to that thought so there's two really important things that you need to like make money and like half a business the first is value right what we just said that value piece needs to be there but also there needs to be the audience the people you want to provide that value to and you need to have both to make money here's what I mean let me give you an example let's say that you see this person online and they sell like a nutrition ebook for I don't know like $20 or something and they make $20,000 from it and you're like what I'm so well- versed in nutrition it's like my deepest passion I'm so good at it I can do that like I I can make a helpful ebook and so you make the ebook and it's really really good jam-packed full of just like amazing information and you put it up online and nobody buys it the reason why that original person made $20,000 from this little ebook is because they already had the audience to sell it to she had both parts the value and the customers or the audience so what I'm saying is that you got to think about what value you're going to provide but also how are you going to find the customers of the audience who are going to see that value how will you attract them in you need both if you want to be an interior designer you're so good at it it's just like a skill that comes naturally to you and you love it it makes you so happy how will you attract the clients if you want to make an app to like help people in some way like maybe some sort of like self-care app what are you going to do so that people find out about it how are you going to reach the intended audience with that app or if you are an amazing artist and you want to start selling your art how are you going to Market it how are people going to find your art if you want to do freelance copyrighting how are you going to get clients the value you provide will only bring you income if you know how to find the people who see its value so really thinking Journal about what you want to do what feels most aligned and what you plan to do to cover both of these bases the value and the audience now step number four is time to set yourself up for Success so you can actually make this a reality before I quit my job job I made certain choices and certain sacrifices to be able to do that and it wasn't just me who wanted to quit my job my husband also wanted to quit and go into like a whole different industry and moving into that industry it's like usually the first few years you kind of don't make very much so it would be like a decrease in income for him and so we knew that we had to somehow set ourselves up for success to be able to handle that or else it just wouldn't happen and I don't know if I've ever shared this I don't remember but right after Cole and I got married we actually moved in with my dad and we had already been living together in La for like 2 years or something but we talked about this and we really like significantly wanted to cut our expenses so that we could have the option to create the dream life that we wanted to create and so we moved in with him for like a year and a half after we got married and I'm super grateful that we were able to do that and you know I know not everybody has the option if you do have that option it can be a pretty helpful one not going to lie but that's not like someone's dream once they get married is to like move in with a parent right but we knew that to eventually start living the life that we wanted to live in the long term we needed to make severe cuts to our expenses so we moved in with him in the suburbs about like an hour or an hour and a half away from La which is where we still worked so we had that really really long commute it was honestly like a pretty tough time because you know really long commutes suck and it was just like a lot of like driving and then working and then going home and that was basically it but we basically just socked away money for like 6 months to a year I don't remember until we had like a pretty sizable savings until we got to a point where we were like okay I think we're ready to like take this leave and he like did his stuff first he quit and then did the like um I don't know online whatever courses he needed to do to switch into the industry he wanted to do and then he eventually got the job and then once he got the new job then I think like 2 months later I think I quit but the point is is that by making these temporary sacrifices that was the only way that we were going to get to where we wanted to go it was kind of the only way so is there a way that you can set yourself up for Success set yourself up for being able to live the life that you want to live create the business you want to build is there a way where you can have sort of a safety net to help like ease your transition but here's another option and something to consider this is what I would have done if I didn't have the option to like severely cut my expenses and live with a parent this is what I would have done if you know with 100% certainty that the job you're working and the career you're working towards right now is not for you and you know that you 100% Want To Do Your Own Thing another option is to quit your current job especially if it's like very stressful or very very timec consuming or toxic or anything like that and find the lowest stress but highest paying job you can find the key here is low stress and you you have that job and you are grateful for that job while you build your business on the side until your business income can sustain you and you don't need that lower stress job especially if you can find a job that's remote that can also be incredibly helpful because then you tend to have a little bit more autonomy with your schedule and you know you can maybe like do a little bit during the day to help build your business that can be a great option as well now another thing that's important if you want to build a creative business I recommend not getting a super creative job and let me tell you why when you are working a 9 to5 that's like very creativity heavy what you're doing is you're using that creativity muscle all day every day at your job but then what happens at the end of the day when you have that two hours at the end of the day to devote to your own business to your own creative business that creative muscle is fried there's not really much left over for yours that creativity needs to be reserved for you and the business that you want to make because if you're just giving it to this company all day every day that creative life force energy is going to be gone and anyone who's creative knows that like it's not just like unlimited creativity like you only really have a certain level every single day before you're just absolutely fried so if you want to build a creative business that's something to really keep in mind so the key is finding something that is low stress ideally more flexible something that would ideally end at like a certain time and then you don't have to keep checking your phone seeing if your boss is emailing you you don't have to worry about work after you close the laptop or you leave the office and then during that time you build something for yourself and you leave when you can another way to set yourself up for success is to treat your new business like it's actually a business before it's even a business yet right like if your dream is to escape the 9 to5 then stop treating it like it's a hobby stop putting it off and start showing up for yourself now if you're someone who just has no idea what they want to do they don't know what their skill sets are they don't think they can provide any value to the world then here's what I'd recommend then again switching to a low stress job something that is not too too timec consuming is something to consider because then this will give you the time and space to like follow your curiosity and learn different things and explore your talents and explore your skill sets and connect back to yourself connect back to what you're naturally good at but you have to actually be like dedicated to learning and exploring this you can't just like watch reality TV at the end of every day allow yourself to follow your curiosity and eventually you will find your thing and eventually you'll reconnect with what you're naturally good at or maybe you are obsessed with reality TV and pop culture anything can be turned into a business if you provide value the point is is that building a business from nothing it can be scary and it can be a lot of like trial and error and it can take time but there are some things that you can do to set yourself up for success to make that transition easier and to make it so that business is more likely to be successful so how can you set yourself up for Success maybe it's cutting expenses majorly like I did maybe it's moving like a lot closer to your work because normally you're commuting like 3 hours a day and it's taking all your time but now you just like move basically across the street and now you have those 3 hours back and you could use those three hours to dedicate to Growing your business or maybe setting yourself up for Success means finding a mentor or maybe let's say that you know what you want to do you want to like create your own social media agency but you just feel so overwhelmed and you don't know where to start maybe go work for a social media agency first like learn how the process works learn like what do the contracts say like how do the contracts work how do they find clients what are the legal things that you need to know and then when you gain that knowledge you'll feel a lot more confident and you'll be much more likely to be successful once you do that thing on your own how can you set yourself up for Success maybe you're one of those people who needs like extreme pressure to actually take action and make things work maybe you need the pressure of not having any income coming in next month to make your business work I don't know like for me that would make me want to shrivel up and die I would hate that but for you maybe that's what you need I don't know find what will set you and your business up for Success now the last step number five is to just start just start doing something taking action in whatever way feels right when it comes to making major change in your life momentum is more important than Perfection you just have to get the ball rolling one of the worst things that you can do is just get lost and overwhelmed and get lost in like analysis paralysis where you don't do anything because there's like so many options and like different things to do just make some sort of moves they might be wrong but just do something after I had quit and and taken some time and like healed my body and all of that I really felt like I was stuck in analysis paralysis because I knew I wanted to do something but I didn't like fully know what that was and I didn't know like how to take action I was overwhelmed I was nervous and I was scared so I just tried to take like one step forward and one thing that I was really interested at the time was like healthy eating and living a healthy lifestyle because I had literally gone through this entire process of like healing my body and it was just this like huge change huge learning moment in my life and through that process I kind of fell in love with all of that stuff healthy eating healthy lifestyle healthy mindset all of it and so I knew I wanted to at least head in that sort of Direction and so I signed up for like an online like year-long program it's called Institute for Integrative Nutrition and it wasn't good I don't recommend it but it didn't matter because me doing that it got the ball rolling me showing up to the classes every single week for a whole year me paying all that money to like get this online certificate it didn't matter because it got the ball rolling and one thing led to the next and one thing led to the next and things just started happening just start with something because even just taking one step will help you move forward even if that one step is wrong even if that one step is not helpful you're still going to learn something from it you're still going to have momentum from it this might mean meeting new people in the industry that you're interested in or signing up for a course or hiring someone to make a website for you or figuring out how to do it yourself or making an inst stagram for your business that doesn't even really exist yet all you need to do is get the ball rolling not overthink and follow that momentum stop thinking all the time about what you want to do stop talking to your friends all the time about what you want to do and just start taking action I know the idea of quitting a stable job can feel really scary I get it but I do hope that this video was helpful and was able to give you some sort of guidance but before you go I highly recommend you check out this video how to build a business in your feminine energy I share a bunch of business tips on that video but specifically for like how to build a business but still live that like soft sort of life so I'll see you over there or I'll just see you next time in my next video bye