What INFPs Need in a Partner

- Ah, refreshing Limoncello. The INFP personality type

is probably one of the most, if not the most, unique,

the uniquest if you will, of the 16 personalities. INFPs are individualistic,

they're creative. They do their own thang. So when it comes to relationships, an INFP needs to find a partner who has a few particular characteristics. It can't just be anyone

off the street, all right? They've gotta be able to handle an INFP. Not everybody is up to the task. Before we continue,

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gets his birthday card on time, gosh darn it. The first thing an INFP needs in a partner is someone who will

respect their feelings. INFP are deeply emotional but the irony is they don't often show it. And lots of times they don't

even like talking about it. Their emotions are like an iceberg. You might see a little

bit above the surface but there's so much more

going on beneath the surface. An INFP needs to have a

partner who understands this and who realizes that

they're going to be be times where you are feeling things and they're not really

gonna understand it, and that you just have to feel it. INFPs don't react well

to people who are like, get over it or tell you that you shouldn't feel a certain way. An ideal partner for an INFP will be able to be by their side when they are up, and when they are down without

questioning the validity of their emotions. Next, INFPs needs someone

who can keep them grounded. Someone who has a bit practical. INFPs have wild imaginations. I think INFPs would often

rather just spend time in their imaginations

than in the real world. The downside of this of course is that if you are stuck in your imagination, you're not really living life and you can let the practical

day to day things pile up until you're overwhelmed. INFPs need a partner who can appreciate their deep imaginations but also be like, "Hey, ground control to Major Tom." Let's take your protein pills

and put your helmet on, okay? Relationships are about balance. I'll probably say it several more times throughout this video. So an INFP needs someone who

is well grounded in reality, and is practical to balance out the INFP. This next one is another quality that will balance out an INFP because an INFP needs someone who will help them be more social. Now I know a lot of the

INFPs watching now are like, no man, I don't need no help being social. My dream partner is someone

who'll stay at home with me and we'll never have to go out

ever again, but hear me out. This doesn't mean you

need to find a partner who's like a party animal or someone who likes to go out all the time. In fact, believe it or not,

many extroverts I've met considered themselves to be homebodies. But the difference is when

they're around people, they like to engage with them. INFPs on the other hand,

like to stick to themselves. I think it's fair to

say that they'd really just prefer not to interact

with anyone most of the time. But a lot of that I think

comes from a fear of judgment. INFPs really care about

what everyone else thinks about them, more so than is typical, and not like in a neutral,

oh, I wonder what they think. But more like, "Oh, my

gosh, my world is ending," because of what they think, kind of way. You know like, your circuit's dead there's something wrong kind of way. So having a partner who

likes talking to people someone who can serve as a

social buffer is great for INFPs because their partner can

help them be more social while taking away some

of the fear that comes from being solo in a social situation. And that's good. Socializing helps you grow as a person and ultimately will help you

feel more connected with others and get over some of that fear of judgment which really holds INFPs back. Before we continue, let's pause briefly and see if YouTube would

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place an order for you at Taco Bell. Okay, that's not true. Now, after your partner has

dragged you around to a couple of social events, you'll

probably be pretty drained. INFPs need a partner who understands that sometimes you need space

and who can respect that. Some people get nervous. They freak the F out

when an INFP shuts down because to them being

quiet, being closed off keeping to themselves is

something that they would only do if they were very upset. But to an INFP that's just

something you have to do every once in a while. You gotta process all the

crap going on in your brain, or maybe you just wanna play

around in your imagination for a little while and

escape from the real world. INFPs need a partner who will realize oh, okay, you need to

recharge, that's okay. I'm gonna do my own for a while too. When you have a partner who

can respect your alone time it will make that time so

much more refreshing for you so that you can engage again

even sooner with your partner and the rest of the world. Now I've already mentioned that INFPs have crazy imaginations. You know, they're out there

floating in a most peculiar way. And that's because INFPs love to explore. They are naturally adventurous,

even if just in their mind. So they need a partner who

will go along with that and help the INFP explore. Because INFP is having

imagination that is focused on the possibilities of the outside world, they need to keep feeding it. They need a partner who

will be there for that whether that's in conversation,

exploring new ideas or actually going out into

the real world on adventures. Without someone who can explore with them, an INFP will get bored, and feel trapped, which is not exactly something

you want in a relationship. Next, this might seem obvious, but INFPs needs someone with whom they can foster a deep connection. INFPs take everything very personally. They feel like their

connection with, you know, the barista at Starbucks is special. So in a relationship they need

someone who will also treat the connection as a very

special personal thing. And not everyone is like that. I mean, there are lots of people, even in a loving, healthy relationship who view the connection with their partner in a less intense deep way. And to INFPs, that's

extremely off-putting. INFPs want the kind of

intense relationship where if the INFP has said to someone, tell my wife, I love her very much. The other person would

just reply, she knows. Lastly, INFPs need someone who

can challenge them to grow. Specifically, the place where

INFPs need to grow the most is in learning how to get out

of their own head a bit more and rely on their own feelings a bit less. INFPs have such a strong inner compass about what they like and don't like, what they think is good and bad and how they feel about everything, that it can lead them

to act kind of selfish and forget about everyone else. The INFP's biggest challenge in life is going to be opening

themselves up to realizing that other people's judgments are just as valid as their own. The INFP's super power is

that they know who they are and they have a vision, and

they're very sure of it. But the cost of letting

that go unchecked is that everyone else might think that

you only care about yourself. A good partner will help the INFP realize that they can better achieve their dreams, if they can challenge

themselves in this way to think, what do other people think? How can I work with others

and not just go off on my own and do my own thing as I'm

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