How to Speak Clearly Without Rambling!

If you clicked on this video, there's a high chance that you ramble and you lose your train of thought often when you're speaking to others, which can make you feel frustrated, self-conscious, and insecure. How do I know? It's something I used to do a lot. I want to share with you three lessons to help you unlock the three C's to help you become more clear, more concise, and more coherent. This is what all great communicators do. Starting with nervousness. I've spent more than a decade speaking on stage and presenting to millions of people all around the world. And nerves are one of the unexpected culprits that causes you to lose your train of thought and then start to ramble. And it often happens in that exact sequence. So let's talk about nervousness. Something that I know impacts all of us, even me still until this day. I can tell you one lesson that's going to completely change the way you show up and help you crush 90% of the nerves. One of the key reasons why we feel nervous is because we become extremely self-conscious. We think, "Is the audience going to like what I'm going to say? Do they like the way my slides look? Do they like the way I look? Do they like the way I dress? Do they like my glasses? Do they like my hair? Do they like my watch? Do they like me me?" And the more you focus on you, naturally, the more self-conscious you become, naturally, the more nervous you're going to feel. So if you want to change that, don't become self-conscious, become audience conscious. As you start to focus more of your attention on the audience, you have less cognitive capacity to focus on yourself. Therefore, if you're spending all of this brain power thinking about the audience, you have no brain power left to think about yourself, meaning you're no longer self-conscious, meaning you're no longer nervous. Let's go back to the three lessons. The second lesson when it comes to speaking clearly is rehearsal. And I recently flew from my hometown Adelaide, Australia to Melbourne, one of our rival cities. Adelaide is way cooler, to run a 3-day communication workshop. And I was asked this very question we're discussing in this video right now. >> How do I keep track of what I want to say? Because like you, I speak very fast >> and I can ramble and then get into the waffle and then lose my train of thought. So there's multiple elements within that. There's how do I not lose track of what I'm going to say? How do I also not ramble? Two separate things has two separate solutions. Okay. So the first part is how do I not lose track of what I'm going to say? Now often how many of you feel that when you've got a presentation you're like ah what if I forget what I'm going to say? What happens? Right? The reason you feel that is most likely most of you don't rehearse properly. You don't rehearse well. So, I'll tell you how to rehearse because most people what they do the way they rehearse is they they'll print out something and the way they rehearse is this is how they do it. Okay? So, in front of a mirror generally uh underwear preferable and then they go there and because you you're comfortable at home and then you just go just good morning everyone. It's really good to be here. Uh got it right. I need you to understand that low levels of effort during rehearsal leads to low levels of retention. Okay, higher levels of effort during rehearsal leads to higher levels of retention. So when you're rehearsing to not forget what you're going to say, you need to rehearse with more energy. So when you're rehearsing, even if you're at home by yourself in your underwear, if you so choose to be so to do that, then you just go, "Hey, good morning everyone. Oh my goodness, so good to see all your lovely faces. I can't wait for us to spend two days together." Right? So as you're practicing that, that's how you got to sound. And that high level of effort, it brings in muscle memory. Now, high levels of effort also makes it cognitively stick. Most people rehearsing correctly. That's step one. I'm just going to add on to what I was saying on stage there. You also want to do what's known as table reads. Three to five table reads where you're sitting there reading your entire presentation from top to bottom with high levels of effort. Then from there, you turn your speech into dot points. And you're going to be shocked because you'll remember more of your presentation than you've ever remembered before because it's not now just embedded in here. It's also embedded in here in your body. And and as we get to the final lesson, what are you doing, Peter? Why are you hiding behind the pole? It looks so This is not even good B-roll. This is >> I'm just trying to be cinematic. >> That's not cinematic. That's That's bloody terrible. Listen, before we get to the final lesson, we're going to be talking about communication frameworks. And this is a fascinating area of communication. We're going to cover just briefly the 321 framework. But again, for those of you who are interested in going deeper with me, I've created a free 2hour training session to help you learn how to take your thoughts and turn them into words so you can think faster and speak more clearly. And if you want access to that, just click the link below in the description. And seriously, what is that angle even? Oh my goodness. You know, Peter, that's illegal in some parts of the world. Move up. Move up. All right, we're going to jump back to me on stage as we briefly go through the 321 framework. Waffling. Anyone else waffle? >> Me, too. I love waffles and waffle, too. So, when it comes to waffling, very simple framework that I use. Some of you know this, some of you don't. Very simple. Just use 3 2 1 3 2 1 Three steps, two types, one thing. Use that as a framework. What I mean by this is when someone asks you a question, uh, ask me a question about a topic, any topic you want. >> H, okay. Uh, best milkshake in town. >> Best milkshake in town. Oh, but there's so many things that make a great milkshake because it's also the consistency of the milk. But beyond the consistency of the milk is also the ice cream that they use. But it's also the temperature that you receive it at because if it's too cold, it sticks together and it doesn't do anything because then you can't drink it and then it sucks as an experience. Size of straw also really critical when you're thinking about milkshakes. I'm waffling. I'm waffling. Right? And that's what tends to happen because someone gives you a topic, you freak out. You think you have to answer first immediately and then you say everything you know about that topic. That equals waffling. So when you use this framework, it takes the waffle out of it. So you you said best place or best thing about milkshakes or you said milkshake, right? So I can say listen the one thing you have to know about the best milkshake is you get them in Adelaide, not Melbourne. You know what I mean? Boom. Clear, concise, coherent. The bit's done, right? You don't have to talk more than that. Or you can say there are two types of milkshakes. There's the good type you get in Adelaide and there's a type you get in Melbourne. Right? Look, I love Melbourne. I just love Adelaide more. That's why we called it Rattelade. Now you think we're bigger losers than we were now. Then or you go three steps. You know, there are three steps to you being able to experience the best milkshake of your life. The first thing is to explore. Explore. Give yourself permission to explore lots of different flavors. The second step is to try different consistencies, right? Try the really loose one, then try the firm one. And then the last thing is you'll evolve your taste as a result. So again, it's a simple framework that when you feel like you're asked a question that feels complex, you can just revert to one of these. >> So I'll try one with you. >> Okay. So I'll try one with you. >> Sure. >> So I'll give you a random topic and then you pick one of these. Okay. I I'll go with something common so it's not not crazy. Okay. >> So I will go uh travel. >> H the one thing about travel is to be really clear about what you want out of it. The experience of loss. That's amazing. That's incredible. Right. So, can you see how once you have the framework, then you're able just to immediately go to the framework. Otherwise, when we leave when we leave it to our own brain, the brain goes, I know lots of things about milkshake. There's four different stores. Should I tell you about all four? Maybe I shouldn't tell you. And then you just now you're waffling. Frameworks help. >> Perfect. Thank you so much. It was awesome. >> Round of applause for Marissa. Thank you, Marissa. And how about we give this guy a round of applause? No, that would be weird. That would be way too weird. But it's not as weird as this guy. What are you doing now? This is This is too close. >> Trust me, man. This is cinematic. The audience is going to love it. Trust me, bro. >> I don't know if I trust him. But you know what I do trust? I trust communication frameworks. If you do want to dive deeper into learning more about frameworks, join me for the free 2-hour training I got linked right down in the description below. So, click that, come learn with me. It's going to help you be able to think faster and speak more clearly so you can avoid rambling.