LE NOSTRE FRAGILITA' (163)

Greetings to everyone then and today I am inaugurating the sixth microphone hoping that this goes well because you complain a lot about my microphones and today I would like to talk about a very important topic which is fragility, our fragility is something that worries almost everyone and we need to understand what it is And what functions it has And why we are afraid of it Ok Before starting I would like to tell you something I believe that in a little while I will be forced to put up an advertisement I will do it in the softest way anyway because I don't by exercising more I have to have some rather expensive health treatments which the state doesn't support because it doesn't support them and unfortunately those who are ill cannot get treatment if they don't have the money which is aberrant and so sooner or later I'll have to do it In short I'm announcing it to you now in any case I will look for absolutely non-invasive advertising and therefore And what is fragility What is meant by fragility by fragility is meant that part of our feelings that makes us feel fragile compared to others parents often tell their children that they are fragile that they must be strong because that way they don't have trouble and they often do it with excellent intentions to protect their children because if the child is strong he knows how to defend himself because they don't know how to defend them the concept that the parents of the children have is very important characteristics of children, I repeat, the concept that parents have of their children's characteristics is very important because children perceive them as well as parents perceive them ok, having said this, fragility generally derives from a sensitivity exasperated by adverse situations a sensitivity exasperated by adverse situations sensitivity is a very precious thing, infinitely precious because it is what allows us to understand others and some things in the world if we want ourselves and parents often devalue their children's sensitivity, they devalue their children's fragility because they tell them that you are too fragile, you you're too emotional you let yourself get down too easily and they never ask themselves why they don't ask themselves why because they don't even know that there is a why now one thing that often happens is that a lot of people don't like it up here I mean they don't like that I give responsibility to the parents of their children's discomfort and it would be strange for it to be different given that children are born and live with their parents. That we blame the doorman, the family doctor, the teacher, who do we blame? It is natural that parents are responsible, whether they do it in good faith or in bad faith is another matter, but they are responsible. The fact that some people do not want to see them as responsible can have two reasons, one is that they are parents and they are afraid. of being accused, the second which is the most widespread is that they do not want to judge or question their parents because we all have to think that our parents were good and good because if they were good and good we are worth it if our parents appreciated us we were valuable because the idea is that if our parents didn't appreciate us they hurt us it's because we weren't worth anything and it's difficult to eradicate this idea and it's especially difficult to eradicate the idea that parents they are like demigods first comes God then parents come in the personal protection of individuals therefore giving up the idea of ​​good parents is like giving up the idea of ​​the good god the good god can exterminate humanity as he did he can ask Abraham to kill Isaac just to see if he would do it in his name Kill If you love me Kill your son If you love me and people feel it people say that God is good and the same thing he does with parents that is Whatever they do they are good Why Why he cannot give up his parents' idea of ​​God Now I am not attacking at this moment the god that others believe in or I am not attacking the image of God but the god that some believe in and that is if you imagine a bad God and I see it as bad if you imagine a good God and you tell me things where it is said that God saved a lot of people who did no harm etc. and that he made mistakes in creating this world because he is a creator for whom Poor thing He didn't know much more, so yes he forgot he didn't notice that there were earthquakes, tidal waves, cataclysms, etc., etc. If you prove this to me, I believe that he is a good God, it could also be that I know, I don't know anything, I know what you tell me, that is, gods your parents and your gods I know what you tell me and I rely on that because I know nothing Now this fragility that is condemned by parents and society in general is actually a form of sensitivity, fragility is I am woundable If someone tells me that I'm not worth it, that I'm not very capable, then I suffer, as a child, I suffer if a parent tells me that I'm not worth it because I feel that he doesn't love me, but I don't tell myself that, I tell myself that I'm not worth it, that's why the parent He doesn't love me, the idea of ​​not being worthy is more acceptable because maybe I can do something to be worthy and then the parent will love me. If instead it's the parent who doesn't love me I can't do anything about it and I have to live without being loved by my parents and I'm afraid of living with parents who don't love me I'm fragile because I resent what my parents tell me and consequently I resent what others tell me the parents say why are you so Shy because you scared me The children they are shy if they are scared by their parents because you are so silent because if I speak the parents either silence me or tell me that I am always wrong and I become silent I no longer have confidence in what I say I think that the way I speak I am wrong because I don't feel Lovable because I don't I felt loved because I feel ugly because they didn't make me feel beautiful or beautiful because a loved child also feels beautiful and all the people who make changes with plastic surgery and because they were not loved that is, there is hardly a situation so abnormal as to justify plastic surgery in general they have not felt loved so they do not feel beautiful and they try to change their image rather than accept the idea of ​​their parents who did not love them our fragility comes from a child and here being children comes into play the value of children because children are always considered as unsuccessful attempts at adults there is something that is imperfect But which will become more perfect when they are adults there is a different way of seeing children and is that children have properties that we do not have, they also lack some properties that certain adults have, children with their fragility are bearers of a great sensitivity that can leave room for instinct or gives space to instinct until we force to close that door and we often force them the children's imagination is generally closed we grant them Christmas and the Epiphany but then on the rest no it's not good you have to stay in reality now it's true that the child must distinguish reality from fantasy but we know very well when the fantasy is a psychotic fantasy or a creative fantasy when it is psychotic it is mostly destructive it is horror The child is the custodian of our creative part of our imaginative part and of our instinctual part we adults have a very bad opinion of our instinct because in adults the Instinct comes out Bad in the sense that one gets angry, says bad words, screams, makes crazy eyes, family members become terrified and there is an instinct that comes out, not governed by reason, which harks back to one's childhood, to the childhood of the individual who gets angry who is angry with his parents and takes it out on his children or on others or on his wife and then that instinct is not healthy the healthy instinct is that of children children inherit the earth Some say I I don't love children who doesn't love children but doesn't hurt them or who doesn't love animals but doesn't hurt them it's not because they're a bad person but because they don't love their own inner child to love our children to love children we must love our inner child if we don't love this we don't love our children Maybe we educate them properly we spend money on them we give them a lot of things that you missed my son I gave you everything except love and children they know it, they understand it because they have much more instinct than you because they are the ones who inherit the earth not you, you should learn from your children and instead you are eager to teach them or have them teach them how to be adults, that is, how to lose their spontaneity. Start looking at children and understand what you can learn from them. Start listening to them. You don't know what they are about to tell you. your children usually adults don't listen to children because they already know what they mean Eh but I know you I know what you're like It's not true the parent never knows what he's like the child must learn to know him Because he's different from he is different from the others how can he know him if he is different and if he has not understood that he is different from life he has not understood anything we as children We must realize that we are bringing into the world beings that we do not know and we must learn to know them Then we will have to turn to the child In an attempt to get to know them How do you get to know a person in two ways: the first we observe ourselves and the second we ask him questions, something that parents generally don't do much of, they observe whether the child eats whether the child is healthy whether he is doing well school if he does his homework well and everything goes well he doesn't care if the child feels good inside if he is satisfied if he is happy if he feels loved if he has propensities that we don't know if the child says when I grow up I want to be an actor the parent He thinks how nonsense all actors, singers, etc. want to be, but that's because they like to be popular and they're right too, but they can't discard the idea that the child was actually born to be an actor and so they tell him darling if he's actually your propensity will be seen we are no one to discard their ideas we don't know our children we don't know what they think and we don't know what they think of us and we don't want to know we must know that our children are obedient because if we know that who think of us we might feel bad we teach our children that they owe us their lives I would teach parents that they are responsible for the life that they have chosen to bring into the world they and not their children you parents are responsible for having chosen to bring children into the world they don't have to be grateful to you for this because they don't know if their life will be kind and nice and happy or if it will be a life full of pain and you don't know either and you didn't put them in a world like that nice that you want more you put it in a world Where the most horrible things happen Where children are sold for their organs Where pedophilia exists where wars exist Where envy exists Where hoarding exists, exploitation etc. etc. not you put them in a beautiful world and you are responsible for this they are not your children responsible and moreover they are not responsible for your old age you cannot have children to ensure your old age because it is frighteningly selfish if you are afraid of aging badly Set aside money for the carer at least give someone a job don't rely on the children give up going on holiday and set aside money for the carer Don't have children if you don't love them because you bring our fragility into the world of unfortunates it is the ability to feel with the risk therefore of suffering but also with the ability to rejoice, that is, the fragility of your child will lead him to rejoice if you give him a life Where he can rejoice and the ability to suffer if you give him a life Where He suffers because of you you should congratulate your children if you perceive them as sensitive because they are capable of understanding there is a little story that I may have already told you the risk of repeating you don't know how many things are repeated during an analysis the therapist doesn't just repeat the same things because 100 times he says one to the other he gets one here all the others remain here it's the story of the seven little elephants once When there were ethnic shops beautiful period I loved them now everything has disappeared because multinationals rule there were in Indian shops a row of seven little elephants all made of wood and very cutely decorated, all the same but of different sizes and once I asked the shopkeeper why they were being sold these little elephants in a row And he said because there is a legend and the legend was of a little elephant an elephant who was once taken prisoner in the jungle an Indian elephant was tied to a pole to make it a transport animal and he was crying because he regretted the his jungle and tried to escape one night he succeeds uprooting the stake and flees into the forest only that this stake with the chain tears his flesh makes him bleed He suffers and cries every night every night every day in the forest until a little elephant arrives little one who looks at him and asks why are you crying the elephant explains his situation to him and the little elephant replies For so little with his trunk he touches the chain and the chain falls to the ground it breaks according to the legend which from that day onwards has always a smaller elephant who frees the larger elephant translated into human terms I find this legend beautiful it is always the child who saves the adult the savior of the world is always a child coincidentally Jesus Christ as a child in his arms the Madonna who is the The purified soul is always the child who saves the adult because the one who can turn off the adult's mind is not the adult but the child so if you don't find the child you have inside yourself it will be difficult for you to free your mind and to free your mind you need a sensitive and therefore fragile part but it is fragile because those who are sensitive are hit and are not fragile but are hated by those who hate their fragile part then at school there are many children who, having been hated in their fragility by their parents hate classmates who they feel are fragile and bully them parents often annoys the child Because they have rejected their fragile part and they have rejected it because they have rejected it from their parents and they have taken away the ability to understand something about themselves of others and of the world Oh fragility with respect to emotions because this is what fragility is not it doesn't mean being lazy it doesn't mean being fearful because this is why my personal experience is exchanged I was afraid of everything and everyone and I willingly faced myself I am enlarged and I decided to face the negative astral to be able to free myself even though I knew that it was infinitely stronger than me. Anyone who says that they have faced the astral which is stronger than the astral is completely out of their minds if anyone has tasted it. just once in life you never forget it again I faced material and immaterial things that I could never have thought of facing in reality and in the invisible world and yet I was fearful I was afraid of everything and everyone because I was fragile fragility is a sensitivity and therefore It's a positive characteristic. Let's say it's a gift. If you see a fragile child, defend them. Understand that their fragility is a gift. The gift isn't having special faculties. There are people who have them. I don't have any. Let's be clear, there are people who succeed. to have predictions Particular dreams etc. okay these things exist but the real gift is not that the real gift is fragility Or at least what we call fragility the real gift is being sensitive because there is an innate characteristic there so many ask But what 'it is innate And what is acquired by us by word certainly one part of us is innate and another is acquired what what prevails in life the innate part or the acquired part depends depends on how strong the innate part is It depends on how strong the acquired part means if I have a very strong character, very accentuated, very confident, very combative, I can overcome an acquired part, that is, parents who have done me a lot of harm, I can slowly get back on my feet, not that it doesn't do anything to me. Well, that doesn't exist, but I become capable. to overcome it if I have a slightly weaker character more difficulty but if the environment in which I was born is very destructive it is clear that it will easily be stronger than my character However strong it depends on how strong the innate side is both what very destructive parents give us they can destroy us even though we are strong enough inside vice versa protective parents can save very fragile Creatures but the the most important thing is to understand that fragility is a gift and that you must learn to defend your fragility because we don't have to become strong, we try to become strong by anesthetizing ourselves, we make armor and that saves us then and there, but then it prevents us from understanding the world distances us from emotions and prevents us from understanding ourselves and others, we are often forced to do so when we are young. Then perhaps if we do an analysis, a journey, etc., we regain our interiority, which was fragility, and we give it its true name, that is, sensitivity the ability to be sensitive is the greatest gift we can have, reevaluate it and hold on to it. Greetings to everyone